For years I have struggled with infertility and the jealously that comes with it of other moms with 2 or 3 children. For some reason I have never been jealous with those with 4 or more, as it just seems like too much work for me.
For months my husband has been trying to convince me that 1 should be enough, and how it is somewhat irresponsible in our economy and our financial situation (which I don’t see as that bad…but whatever) to have another. Really just talking me out of the whole idea of becoming pregnant, which was consuming my life.
Since I have been working out and focusing on me more, I think I have almost convinced myself that 1 child is really enough, and there are plenty of good things about being a mom of a singleton.
Such as-
1. I can spoil her rotten…and I like that.
2. I can sleep in.
3. I can work while my daughter quietly plays to herself (which she really enjoys).
4. Shes already potty trained.
5. Kindergarten starts soon, so that is a whole afternoon to myself.
6. I always have time to devote to her.
7. Shopping is easy with only 1.
8. She can hold actual conversations with me.
9. She doesn’t cry (whine yes).
10. I actually have 1, which I am forever thankful.
And there are many more reasons which I am finding now that I have been watching a 12 month old, 4 days a week. Babies are not as fun as I once thought they were, maybe it’s because he is not my own, but I am relieved every night after his mom picks him up.
I also see the stress it has on marriages with multiple children. My cousin has 3 kids all under 4. Her husband always seems exasperated every time I leave, even going so far to tell me not to have more…half jokingly, half not.
I think I have just come my senses on how easy it is just to have my 1 baby.
The only catch is now that I am not trying to get pregnant, thats when it will happen. And it will still be great if it does.
